Comments on: Don’t Be Nice, Be Real (review) http://goesping.org/archives/2005/07/09/dont-be-nice-be-real-review/ Pinging stuff I care about. Wed, 07 Jan 2009 05:24:17 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: LJ Schneider http://goesping.org/archives/2005/07/09/dont-be-nice-be-real-review/comment-page-1/#comment-2598 LJ Schneider Wed, 13 Jul 2005 17:15:56 +0000 http://www.goesping.org/?p=557#comment-2598 I have reread Don't Be Nice Be Real (DBNBR) 3 times and given it to friends. It is both exasperating for the reasons you give and deeply insightful. When I give the book to friends I tell them to let go of what they might think of Bryson's persona. For me one of the key messages of DBNBR is to be genuine in every situation: short cuts for the sake of comfort take you on the wrong path and you, and those around you, will ultimately suffer. Bryson has led a painful life, especially in his childhood. His struggles show. He's a like an enthusiastic geologist who looks at the sheared cliff next to the road. A little wildly he notes how the forces of nature curve and twist rock into a crazy pattern you might not even notice. I don't know the guy. I saw DBNBR on a table at an NVC practice session and the title struck me as the key to a former partner's "problems." I began to read the book and my focus almost immediately turned where it truly belonged -- inward. It's one of oddest books I have ever read -- and I treasure it. I have reread Don’t Be Nice Be Real (DBNBR) 3 times and given it to friends. It is both exasperating for the reasons you give and deeply insightful. When I give the book to friends I tell them to let go of what they might think of Bryson’s persona. For me one of the key messages of DBNBR is to be genuine in every situation: short cuts for the sake of comfort take you on the wrong path and you, and those around you, will ultimately suffer. Bryson has led a painful life, especially in his childhood. His struggles show. He’s a like an enthusiastic geologist who looks at the sheared cliff next to the road. A little wildly he notes how the forces of nature curve and twist rock into a crazy pattern you might not even notice. I don’t know the guy. I saw DBNBR on a table at an NVC practice session and the title struck me as the key to a former partner’s “problems.” I began to read the book and my focus almost immediately turned where it truly belonged — inward. It’s one of oddest books I have ever read — and I treasure it.

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]]> By: Kelly Bryson http://goesping.org/archives/2005/07/09/dont-be-nice-be-real-review/comment-page-1/#comment-2525 Kelly Bryson Tue, 12 Jul 2005 04:40:24 +0000 http://www.goesping.org/?p=557#comment-2525 Someone sent me the review of my book someone here wrote on this blog. I really liked it! Even the "negative" stuff. The honesty felt refreshing, definately "not nice". Thanks for taking the interest and time to do it. Greatfully, Kelly Bryson Someone sent me the review of my book someone here wrote on this blog. I really liked it! Even the “negative” stuff. The honesty felt refreshing, definately “not nice”. Thanks for taking the interest and time to do it. Greatfully,
Kelly Bryson

]]> By: luci http://goesping.org/archives/2005/07/09/dont-be-nice-be-real-review/comment-page-1/#comment-2309 luci Sun, 10 Jul 2005 14:37:23 +0000 http://www.goesping.org/?p=557#comment-2309 I haven't read it, but it sounds like reading Bryson's book is pretty much like talking with a friend -- alternately giraffe- and jackal-speech, huh? In another communications framework, it sounds as though he's purposefuly bringing "coyote" (Trickster) energy to the discussion with his ideas about "enlightened selfishness." But as I said, I haven't read it. I'll have to see if I can get a copy of this one, maybe from my trainer, who I think has taken some training with Bryson. Thanks for the review. I haven’t read it, but it sounds like reading Bryson’s book is pretty much like talking with a friend — alternately giraffe- and jackal-speech, huh? In another communications framework, it sounds as though he’s purposefuly bringing “coyote” (Trickster) energy to the discussion with his ideas about “enlightened selfishness.”

But as I said, I haven’t read it. I’ll have to see if I can get a copy of this one, maybe from my trainer, who I think has taken some training with Bryson.

Thanks for the review.

]]> By: Ed That Goes Ping http://goesping.org/archives/2005/07/09/dont-be-nice-be-real-review/comment-page-1/#comment-2216 Ed That Goes Ping Sun, 10 Jul 2005 01:51:55 +0000 http://www.goesping.org/?p=557#comment-2216 A variety of things from support groups to "intentional communities" (commune type dealies). He's had a lot of contact with the German Zegg community and discusses them a lot. http://www.zegg.de/ A variety of things from support groups to “intentional communities” (commune type dealies). He’s had a lot of contact with the German Zegg community and discusses them a lot. http://www.zegg.de/

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